Film Title: “API Hair & Queerness” by Sally Tran (full version)
So two summers ago, I independently worked on a short documentary on how hair plays a role within shaping our identities and explore what are the factors that render them.
Before I began this project, my hair was at the length of my hips. People have told me that during this time, i looked and presented more “straight” and “femme” and that “I was too pretty to be gay.”
Beauty privilege? Passing privilege? Asian privilege?
Every time anyone told me, “Oh you look so fucking pretty because of your hair,” i began to believe that my beauty could only exist because of my long silky black hair.
I felt vulnerable, I felt restricted, i felt conforming. That this piece of hair that was dangling side to side from my scalp is what defined my beauty.
Within queer spaces, i felt as if there were levels of “queer authenticity” that I had to pass in order to be taken seriously. I felt that I wasn’t “queer enough” because I had long hair, and because i had passing privilege, I felt a lot of femmephobia and the pressure to do this DYKE INITIATION and finally cut my hair which is one of the reasons how this project came about.
I wanted to document the experience of individuals within the queer and Asian womyn/trans community throughout California and explore how gender presentation plays a big role in shaping our different, unique, and intersectional identities.
**note this is my first ever film, so theres several glitches in there so be gentle… and i luhh you**
DIY cake/Pumpkin Pie ‘Postcard”
This is adorable if you want to send a distant loved one a cute personalized message if you can’t be with them for the Thanksgiving holiday, a birthday etc!
- DIY Cake Postcard Tutorial (with video tutorial)
- Pumpkin Pie Postcard
- I suggest you watch the video tutorial to get clear instructions
- Keep in mind, where the ‘postcard’ message goes there is only room for one short sentence, address, and stamps
Not into DIY/Crafts? Fear not! You can still have your cake and eat it, too. Check out this Etsy shop where you can purchase your very own mailable slice of cake.
Strength is being able to crush a tomato.
Dexterity is being able to dodge a tomato.
Constitution is being able to eat a bad tomato.
Intelligence is knowing a tomato is a fruit.
Wisdom is knowing not to put a tomato in a fruit salad.
Charisma is being able to sell a tomato based fruit salad.
Flower mandalas by Kathy Klein
This quote comes from her brilliant discussion with bell hooks on how people tried to shape her response to poor shaming that occurred on her show as her being irrationally angry and as some personality facet, when it was simply a legitimate response to a very disgusting problem of classism and racism in America. And this uniquely happens to Black women based on long held stereotypes and controlling images about Black womanhood, shaped by misogynoir.
I’m not sure how I feel about this
i feel pretty good about it.
*INTENSE* lip bite. Shit. Got blood.
So this is man candy in the flesh.
You know, Mako… all those years I spent living in the past. Never really thought about the future. Until now.
#oh god yet another perfect thing about these two: how much hope and strength they draw from each other #it isn’t at all that they individually lacked the capacity for greatness #it’s that they bring out the best parts of each other #and accomplish great things in the process
#i just want to add like he is so shuttered by grief and tragedy that he can’t think forward because he doesn’t move forward #but she comes into his life and it’s not that she has less tragedy she has the same or more #but she keeps moving; constantly drives forward and pushes herself bc she refuses to let this thing stop her motion #she refuses to let this destroy her #and so when she comes into his life he’s so awed by her???? I LOVE HOW MUCH HE IS AWED BY HER #and she makes time start again for him; like things start to matter again and he wants to move forward WITH her #he wants to stay WITH her #and so when he says that he always had bad timing; part of it is wry and part of it is that he thinks he saw her in the academy when he was #*leaving but also part of it is that it’s a little too late#he learned to live again just when he thinks they’re both about to die #and she makes him think about the future bc all of a sudden he wants a life again #he wants a life with her #and everything is SO MUCH
"I want to write YA [novels], but I can barely stand to approach the YA section of a bookstore without sneering. Why? Because I’m so turned off by that massive wall of book covers displaying straight white stock photo teen hotties."